feat(server): set $NVIM, unset $NVIM_LISTEN_ADDRESS #11009

PROBLEM
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$NVIM_LISTEN_ADDRESS has conflicting purposes as both a parameter ("the
current process should listen on this address") and a descriptor ("the
current process is a child of this address").

This contradiction means the presence of NVIM_LISTEN_ADDRESS is
ambiguous, so child Nvim always tries to listen on its _parent's_
socket. This is the cause of lots of  "Failed to start server" spam in
our test/CI logs:

    WARN  2022-04-30… server_start:154: Failed to start server: address already in use: \\.\pipe\nvim-4480-0
    WARN  2022-04-30… server_start:154: Failed to start server: address already in use: \\.\pipe\nvim-2168-0

SOLUTION
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1. Set $NVIM to the parent v:servername, *only* in child processes.
   - Now the correct way to detect a "parent" Nvim is to check for $NVIM.
2. Do NOT set $NVIM_LISTEN_ADDRESS in child processes.
3. On startup if $NVIM_LISTEN_ADDRESS exists, unset it immediately after
   server init.
4. Open a channel to parent automatically, expose it as v:parent.

Fixes #3118
Fixes #6764
Fixes #9336
Ref https://github.com/neovim/neovim/pull/8247#issuecomment-380275696
Ref #8696

src/nvim/eval.h

@@ -164,7 +164,7 @@ typedef enum {
   VV_ARGV,
   VV_COLLATE,
   VV_EXITING,
-  // Neovim
+  // Nvim
   VV_STDERR,
   VV_MSGPACK_TYPES,
   VV__NULL_STRING,  // String with NULL value. For test purposes only.