feat(extmarks): add "undo_restore" flag to opt out of undo-restoring

It is a design goal of extmarks that they allow precise tracking
of changes across undo/redo, including restore the exact positions
after a do/undo or undo/redo cycle. However this behavior is not useful
for all usecases. Many plugins won't keep marks around for long after
text changes, but uses them more like a cache until some external source
(like LSP semantic highlights) has fully updated to changed text and
then will explicitly readjust/replace extmarks as needed.

Add a "undo_restore" flag which is true by default (matches existing
behavior) but can be set to false to opt-out of this behavior.

Delete dead u_extmark_set() code.

src/nvim/decoration.c

@@ -66,7 +66,7 @@ void bufhl_add_hl_pos_offset(buf_T *buf, int src_id, int hl_id, lpos_T pos_start
     }
     extmark_set(buf, (uint32_t)src_id, NULL,
                 (int)lnum - 1, hl_start, (int)lnum - 1 + end_off, hl_end,
-                &decor, true, false, kExtmarkNoUndo, NULL);
+                &decor, true, false, true, NULL);
   }
 }